“Get a load of this,” said a partner at an Am Law 100 firm, offering me a peek at his Blackberry. “Is this the kind of stuff associates send out these days?” A few seconds later, he grumbled: “Maybe I’m not liberated, but I feel embarrassed for the guy.”

What unnerved this Baby Boomer partner was a memo sent by a midlevel male associate to the entire firm. The subject line of the offending missive: Paternity leave. The gist of the memo: “My wife and I just had an adorable baby, and I’m now officially on paternity leave. See y’all in six weeks!”